Icyamamare ku mbuga nkoranyambaga hano mu Rwanda, Mbabazi Shadia uzwi nka Shaddyboo yibajije impamvu abakobwa benshi bafite imyaka iri hagati ya 26 na 39, Kandi beza, bazi kwiyitaho kandi bafite amafaranga menshi, ariko batagishaka gushaka abagabo. Ashobora kuba yibaza impamvu bafite ibintu byose byiza (ubwiza, amafaranga, ubwitonzi) bazwi nka slay queen ariko bikaba bitabafasha kubona abagabo cyangwa kubaka imiryango myiza.
Gusa muri iyi minsi abakobwa banzwi nk’abasirimu bakunze kugaragaza ibi bintu bakurikira:
1. Guhitamo kwita ubuzima bwabo bwite: Abakobwa benshi bashobora kuba baragiye biyubakira imibereho myiza, bagashaka gukomeza kwitwararika ku kazi, ku bushobozi bwabo, no ku buzima bwabo bwite aho gushaka umugabo.
2. Impinduka mu mibanire: Hari abashobora kuba batarashaka gushaka kubera kubura abantu babona bashobora kuba abakunzi b’abanyabwenge cyangwa basangiye imigambi imwe. Hari n’abashobora kuba batinya kugera mu mubano kuko bafite ibitekerezo ko abashaka abagabo bashobora kuba bafite imigambi cyangwa intego zitandukanye n’abo bashaka kubana.
3. Kwikunda no kubaka ubushobozi bwabo: Muri iyi myaka, abakobwa benshi bashobora kuba barashyize imbere kubaka imari, iterambere ry’umwuga, cyangwa kwishimisha. Bishobora gutuma batabona igihe cyangwa ubushake bwo gushaka abagabo.
Ku rundi ruhande, Shaddyboo yanibajije impamvu hari abakobwa beza bashaka gushaka ariko bakaba batabona amahirwe yo kubaka ingo zizewe kandi zishimishije. Biterwa no gushaka ibintu byinshi birimo kwishima mu mubano, kuba umuntu arushaho gukunda uwari kumwe na we, cyangwa kubona umuntu mwiza mu mibanire.
Iyi ngingo iri ku rubuga rwa X irerekana ko ikibazo gishobora kuba kireba ibibazo byinshi by’imibanire, imitekerereze, n’amahitamo y’umuntu ku giti cye.
